It’s been a while since I posted something here but as I clocked another year this March, I was led to share some introspection into my guiding principles over these years. So here they are:
- Don’t spend time deliberating on the problem, rather focus on the solution.
This is one thing that I have become very conscious of nowadays. I think I may have developed this mindset as I grow in my career with lots of responsibilities attached to my role. I realized that the same energy you require to think solution is almost the same that can be sapped on the problem, I now chose to go with the latter and this act reduces stress, makes me feel like a champion and saves executive time.
- When in doubt, ask a trusted and honest friend.
As you grow older and WISER, you just find the need to reduce your circle of friends and associates to just those who add value to your life and your call. That is not to say that you cut off old friends, but you should allocate less time for talks and all that can sap the energy that you need to be productive at your current level. This is very important because when your circle is lean, you begin to discover the strength of your clique and the value that each person possesses. With this knowledge, it’s easy to reach out to those people who you feel can support you in some ways that you are lagging or need clarity. A very trusted and honest friend is one that you need as you progress in life with lots of decisions to make.
- Even when there is no herd in the stall, God can still be trusted 💯
Because I am a Christian, I speak from the point of the supernatural power of God. There are times when situations do not make sense, and everything just looks like it’s all falling apart. I have learned to look inwards in the power of the one who first loved me and truly loved me; and is able to do abundantly more than I can ask or ever imagine. In those moments, I keep professing the love of God, recapping how much I know that He loves me and would not deny me anything that is good. This confession helps me weather the storm and I see God doing exactly what His plans are for my life.
- Your greatest cheerleader is you. The cheer of others is a bonus.
Learn to evaluate and celebrate your wins. With realistic milestones, you will be able to measure the effort you put in on your task and how much or little success you have made. The cheer of others is not sufficient knowing that everyone does not know the depth of your struggles, available resources and the goals that you have decided to pursue.
For me, the cheer of others is a bonus so don’t be put under pressure by the number of likes or comments you have on your social media post. Not even with the accolades that you feel have not been handed over to you. Once you have achieved a milestone, you have every reason to celebrate that.
- For women, personal development is a short-, medium- and long-term investment. Invest wisely.
Very few women consider this an important aspect of their wellbeing. Generally, personal development is linked to women in career or entrepreneurship endeavours and less to those who are housewives or not in a regimented program. Personal development is something that makes you better than you were yesterday. It gives you confidence and appeals to your self-worth. It can be achieved in any area of life – health, career, hobby, finance, wealth, spiritual and family.
Because the world is gradually evolving and things are changing with technology, updating one’s skills is important. Imagine being in a gathering and a particular subject matter is being discussed and you are the only one who has knowledge or expertise to contribute to that conversation. That builds self-confidence and gives a good perception of your worth. So, in all you do, endeavor to invest in yourself.
In summary, as we grow older, we learn a lot and adjust our lifestyles to suit these new phases of our lives. What guiding principles are you seriously upholding at this stage of your life? I’d like to hear from you in the comment section.
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